Friday night arguments

August 12, 2018 | minutes read

My wife’s parents told us that when they first moved in together, they noticed that when they argued with one another, the arguments normally took place on Friday evenings.  And when they became aware of this pattern, the two of them agreed to shelve any important discussions for the next day. And surprisingly, this worked for them. What’s even more interesting is that my wife and I encountered a similar situation: we too would argue on Friday evenings, which made no sense to me.  But I think I may know why.

I’m reading a book that I picked up at my library yesterday, a book titled When (by Daniel H Pink).  Although I’ve only read through the a dozen or so pages, the author explains how researchers identified that people (all over the world, different races and different genders and different religions) felt the happiest during the morning, the happiness peaking at noon and then plummeting to it’s lowest point in the evening: around 5pm. And although I’ve only read through the first few pages, this new piece of information alone leads me to believe that this steep decline in positive energy correlates to arguments that pop up what should be the happiest time of day: Friday evenings.

Anyways, I’m going to continue reading the book (it is quite gripping) and report back. And if I’m right about the Friday evening situation, then I’ll create a habit to defer any important discussions to Saturday morning. Let’s see.

I’m Matt Chung. I’m a software engineer, seasoned technology leader, and father currently based in Seattle and London. I love to share what I know. I write about topic developing scalable & fail-safe software running in the AWS cloud, digital organization as a mechanism for unlocking your creativity, and maximizing our full potentials with personal development habits.

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